“A big lesson about loving someone is coming to understand that when love ends for one person, it ends for both people. The important part of this is recognizing when it has ended and not fighting against that.” --Elizabeth George
Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. It is usually a long slide toward emotional alienation. True? Work demands, children, life, in all of that did you pay yourselves first? Did you 'dance with the one that brought you,' or ask him/her to sit this one out as life did what life does. The one who cares the most will need to guide the two of you away from the edge of breaking. Is it worth it to you?